You might have been wondering why it’s been so silent on my blog and Instagram for the past 2 months…or maybe not…haha. Either way, it’s time to let everyone in on the secret I’ve been keeping.
I’m pregnant with baby #2!
How I’m feeling
I wish I had a cute pregnancy announcement photo shoot to share with you but I don’t. It’s been a rough couple weeks and I’m barely just starting to function again. Seriously, the last 3 months I’ve been laying on the couch, in my pjs, just trying to survive. I’m about 17 weeks so far (so into my second trimester already!) and I’ve been sick since about week 6. Like my first pregnancy, I’ve had all day morning sickness. I was really hoping it would be different this time around but I wasn’t that lucky. Last pregnancy I didn’t know there was anything I could do about the morning sickness so I waited until week 8 or 9 to start taking medication for the all day vomiting and nausea. This time around I started taking the meds around week 6 after I’d thrown up a couple times. I was NOT going through the all day vomiting and weight loss again. So I’m on Bonjesta right now which is a new version of the Diclegis I took the first time. I really don’t like taking medication but I feel less worried this time around because Harrison turned out fine…haha. Bonjesta is also FDA approved and considered very safe to take during pregnancy. And I know that if I didn’t take the medication I would be losing a lot of weight which isn’t a good thing either. I’m already underweight and last pregnancy I lost about 7 pounds in a couple weeks due to the vomiting. I didn’t want to let that happen this time especially considering my morning sickness lasts for about 3 months!
Other than that, my husband and I are excited! This was a planned pregnancy and we are excited for Harrison to have a sibling. Honestly, I feel like I just had Harrison (he just turned 2) and if I was younger I would have been fine waiting another year before getting pregnant. But one of my personal goals was to be done having kids before 35 so I felt the clock ticking since I turned 34 this March. I’m happy to say that this baby is due Jan. 1st 2020 which is before I turn 35! Mission accomplished…lol! This may seem silly but it’s actually one of the only goals for my life that I’ve actually hit so it’s a big deal to me.
That being said, I’m not necessarily opposed to having another baby after 35. If it happens, it happens. I always thought I’d have 3 kids. But after going through morning sickness twice it’s really hard for me to sign up for that again. It’s really debilitating for me and it was harder this time around because I had Harrison to look after. I’m SO lucky that I didn’t have to go to work AND take care of Harrison at the same time while going through the morning sickness. I don’t know how some women do it. I’ve been miserable for most of the pregnancy so far and I don’t want to go through this again. I also think I’ll be happy with 2 kids. That feels like enough to me!
Coming January 2020!
As I mentioned above, the due date is January 1st! A New Years baby! Or possibly…Christmas! I’ve never wanted to have a baby with a birthdate around Christmas because I wouldn’t want my birthday around then…lol. But you can’t really pick the due date. Well, I guess technically you can but I haven’t managed to get pregnant on the first try so it didn’t really work out. With my first pregnancy it took almost a year for me to get pregnant so I figured it could possible take that long, or longer, this time. I was also still breastfeeding Harrison and I wasn’t sure how that would effect our efforts. Surprisingly, it only took about 4 months to get pregnant this time! I did decided to stop breastfeeding 3 months into trying and the next month I got pregnant. So I don’t know if that had anything to do with it.
Boy or Girl?
We don’t know the gender yet! I have our gender ultrasound a little after 20 weeks which will be in August sometime. It seems like everyone finds out sooner than that though through a blood test. For some reason, that’s not a part of my pregnancy care so I guess I have to wait. We are hoping for a girl though. Since this is our last (maybe…haha) I would like to have a boy and girl. And my husband and I have always wanted a girl. I was convinced Harrison was a girl and was a little disappointed when I heard I was having a boy. BUT it was the best thing to happen to us. I love having a boy and I’m actually glad that my first is a boy. He’ll be a great older brother and will look after his sibling! Even if we have another boy I’m sure I’ll be just in love with him as I am with Harrison. God knows best and we will have the baby we were meant to have!
Even though I’ve had a rough start I’m extremely grateful to be able to experience pregnancy again. I’m sure all of us know someone who is struggling to get pregnant or has had a miscarriage. And with social media it’s even more common to hear about pregnancy struggles. My heart goes out to you if you are one of those people! Even if you don’t struggle with infertility it can be hard to hear pregnancy announcements if you have been trying for awhile and haven’t gotten pregnant yet. It can be a very stressful time either way. So I don’t take this for granted and I’m feeling very lucky right now.
Plans for Jeans and a Teacup
I never wanted to be one of those fashion bloggers that turns into a mommy blogger after they had kids. So rest assured, I will still be primarily a fashion/style blogger! Nothing against mommy bloggers – it’s just not my thing. Honestly, I’ve never been into kids that much…lol. I love my own babies but I’m not really into other peoples kids. I think I did an ok job with not talking too much about mom things after I had Harrison. But with 2 kids it obviously gets harder for the mom aspect to not seep into your “online” life. It seems like nowadays people want to hear about EVERYTHING so keeping a HUGE part of your life separate from your blog/instagram life can be hard…and maybe seem inauthentic?
There’s also the question of how much I want to share about my kids online. I think it’s important for them to have privacy until they are old enough to decide if them want to be online. Which is another reason I haven’t shared about Harrison much on my blog/instagram. There are some days that I want to bring Harrison more into my blog/instagram life because now that I’m a mom I do enjoying seeing little bits of other fashion bloggers kids on instagram. But I always go back to feeling that it’s a little weird to share so much of your kids for privacy and safety reasons. So I don’t know… I might be one of those bloggers that share her kids but not show their faces. Maybe that’s a good compromise?
I’m also wondering if I’ll still have time to keep up with everything. It’s a struggle guys! A lot of bloggers who are successful have help. They have assistants and childcare. I have neither. I don’t even have relatives close by that can watch the kids every once in awhile. And adding another baby to the mix will be even more challenging. I don’t make enough through the blog to hire an assistant and childcare is expensive!
That being said, I’m going to try my hardest! I love blogging and can’t imagine giving it up. I’m just hoping I make it big this year so I can hire an assistant…hahaha.